(As seen in The Richland Observer, January 2, 2014)
They say the pain of childbirth is forgotten in light of the love for the child and children to come. Being male I do not have to test this assertion so I will just run with it. Nostalgia is similar in its analgesic effects. I like to think of it as a warm blanket for the mind. I think its fair to say that life is equal parts tribulation and success. It may even be more accurate to say that life is consistently difficult so it is not uncommon to yearn for those times and places that bring comfort and joy.
Nostalgia can strike at any moment under any circumstances. It can be brought on by a familiar smell or place or it can come out of nowhere. Nostalgia can make you feel calm and connected to the world around you or it can highlight the fact that you might just be too far from where you want to be in life. In rare cases it can make you long for things you have never had or places you have never been. This might be more of a “grass is always greener” reaction to a current situation.
So is it helpful? Yes. No question about that. But we have to be willing to listen and understand exactly what it is we are longing for. Recently I have decided to start embracing this warm blanket and use it to decide what is truly important in my life. This is the birthplace of much of my writing and this occasional column.
I have a Bachelor’s and Master’s degree in social work and I think I pursued this because I am curious about the world and the human condition contained therein. Being a social worker gives special license to be inquisitive, or if you prefer, nosey. So I have decided to take stock and take control of my life, as best I can, and hopefully pass along something useful to those who have a moment to pay attention.
I study writing in my spare time and enjoy thinking of and jotting down stories or story ideas. I will tell you that I am writing a novel, but I think pretty much everyone is doing that nowadays. Maybe something will come of it, maybe not. Either way it gives license to dig deep and find out what makes us all tick. My other hobbies are curiosity and collecting strange facts. I am overrun with Jeopardy knowledge. Since I never intend to be on that show, I would like to share what I have amassed with readers.
I have spent the last decade working mostly in the medical field with people of all ages. I am well versed on aging and dementia, death and dying, and making the most of life while living with adversity. I have plenty of topics I would like to share in the weeks, months and years to come but I also welcome questions. If it may be of interest to others, I will try to turn it into a piece for all to read. If not, I will still answer questions and offer advice through email based on my knowledge and experience. I am not a counselor. I am a Certified Social Worker. This means I can assess and suggest and that I spend time researching and evaluating information. Any information that is given should not take the place of doctor’s advice or a licensed therapist’s treatment plan. I can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org and through my website www.josephscribbins.com. The short version is that I feel quite comfortable and confident addressing just about any topic. And who knows? Maybe what I say here will help you find your warm blanket.